Psychological Problems After Divorce
Divorce is an act that affects mental health. Anxiety, depression, regret, anger and loneliness especially destroy the entire life of a woman.
Divorce is a stigma, a scourge of society, an ugly act, a weak relationship starting with three words and ending with three words. We hear many such things in society about divorce. Regardless of whether these are all thoughts or not, they should be reserved for an act like divorce, not for the person who suffers from it.
Indeed, divorce is an act that is disliked by Allah Almighty, but then what is the reason that Allah Almighty made it permissible and halal?
The relationship between husband and wife is the first relationship formed in worldly relationships. The stronger this relationship is, the more fragile it is. Husband and wife are called the two wheels of a car. Balance between these wheels is extremely important for driving a car. If the balance of one of the wheels is disturbed, an accident can occur.
Life can become hell and sometimes the parties do not hesitate to harm each other. To avoid this torment, Allah Almighty has permitted an act like divorce. There can be many reasons for divorce, but it has been seen that whatever the reason for divorce, it is mostly the divorced woman who has to bear the consequences. One has to go through emotional, social and economic crises, find suitable accommodation, make reasonable arrangements for one’s own and, if there are children, their maintenance, endure the accusations and taunts of relatives, friends and other people, and have to rebuild one’s identity in society.
At every opportunity, she finds herself in the dock of people, everyone has to give explanations. However, when a woman gets divorced, the doomsday comes upon her. A whole host of problems await her.
The first problem for a divorced woman is a secure roof. If the woman is not a woman of status, then the problem becomes even more serious. She has to come down significantly from her usual standard of living.
After that, she has to arrange a suitable job. While shouldering the burden of being the head of the household, she has to fulfill the responsibilities of both men and women. Even if the father or brother of this divorced woman provides her with accommodation, they cannot provide her with the same status as before, despite their efforts. The new relationships in her own home are not able to fully accept this partnership.
On this occasion, if the family gives the girl a share of the inheritance, then not only will the woman be able to make a living, but the parents will also be able to secure their future. If the woman has no source of income, the situation will worsen. Parents should teach their daughters some skill apart from education, so that they do not suffer from financial difficulties in difficult situations.
The divorced woman herself has to fight a legal battle for the right to dowry, custody and maintenance of the children. For this too, she needs economic and social support. Instead of blaming the woman, people in the society should put pressure on the divorcing man to give the woman and the children their Sharia and legal rights, even if the children are with the mother.
A man should decide all these things with an open heart and in accordance with the principles of Sharia, but we can see the indifference of our society, which ruthlessly violates the rights of a helpless woman. As soon as a divorce occurs, a series of base accusations and character assassinations begin against each other, which is very unfortunate, because its most negative effects are on the children.
They are the most affected by the circumstances and become victims of deprivation, although the divorced parties can never be completely separated if they have children. For the betterment of the children, the issues, problems and decisions of their lives have to be resolved by the parents together. Therefore, there should be no difference in respect and honor for each other. This has a very positive effect on the lives of the children.
Divorce is a process that affects mental health. Anxiety, depression, regret, anger and loneliness, especially for a woman, can ruin her entire life. It is better to first turn to Allah Almighty. Cry, lament and express all your sorrows and pains before Him. In this way, do your catharsis, put your head on the shoulders of your loved ones and remove all the dust from your heart.
Give yourself some time and then plan your future life. If there is any suitable hope, then definitely consider it. Good opportunities should not be wasted. You have every right to happiness. Start a new life. Do not sit idle, work and especially keep your mind busy. Stay positive, think positively, trust yourself and try to be a support for others instead of being a burden on others. Take care of your sleep and food. Go for a walk. If you feel that mental anxiety is increasing, do not hesitate to contact a psychologist. Indeed, Allah Almighty is with those who are patient.
